A vulnerable Father

A vulnerable Father, it might sound a bit of Oxymoron, Since by the word Father one would imagine a person who can protect and take care his children. Than how come a person who can protect and take care of ones children can be vulnerable? If the person is vulnerable than how is he going to take care of his children? How can he protect his children? these are the obvious question that might be coming to ones mind. Well the questions that are coming are right, but interestingly this is the fact of today’s Indian society, Where Fathers are much more vulnerable than any one else.

Your ears and mind might not be in a position to accept what I am saying, because we all are used to concept of woman are vulnerable than how come a Father who is a man is vulnerable. It might be shaking your basic understanding of the society, it might be shaking your all these years of experience. Yes which is good. Because when it is shaking than it will make some space for this new situation that is creeping before us. And we need to understand this so that we can do a dissect of this issue, which I am going to talk about that would help us to realize and see where we are heading as a society.

Most of you might have heard about dowry harassment, 498A, DVC etc etc, and how the modern day woman are misusing these laws which were meant to protect woman, but ended up in breaking families, acting as a tool for extortion and torturing man, etc. But in all of this what is not much highlighted is about the cases where the husband is a Father. And how this Father is expected to support each and every way for their children but they are not even allowed to see their own children.

Fathers who are fighting their cases in court are providing the maintenance for their children, for the mother of their children, paying school fees of their children doing every bit for their children, but these very fathers are not even allowed to visit their children. When some of these fathers could not bear being separated from their own children and try to see, law in this country even booked them under the case of Kidnapping their own children, in some cases Fathers are waiting for more than 18 months to get a glimpse of their children, can you imagine what kind of trauma the father would be going through. Is it not in human?

Now the bigger concern is, in most of cases these fathers are not able to make any relation with their children, since they are allowed only 4 hours in a week to spend with children. In many cases children might not have been told that the person who is coming to meet every week is his Father. Since there is no relationship that is able to grow, what would be the situation of this Father when he grows old? Who would be taking care of this father? Even though he have done all his duties in the scope that have been permitted to him, still he will not get the love what he was supposed to get as a Father.

And most of the man who have got a bad taste from these false Dowry and Domestic violence are not able to get courage to go for another marriage. So these Man are left with no one to take care of them when they grow old. Are these man are not part of our society? Are these Fathers are not our brothers, Sons, friends? Than why as a society we are silent on such a big issue? Why are we not talking on this issue? Can we imagine after 20-30 years from today, where we will see more cases of divorce are getting filed, how many fathers we need to deal with not having any one to take care. This really looks scary, and as a society we need to understand the gravity of the situation and need to address this.

This Article is Submitted by: B.Narshing Kumar.

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